It's also a great way to really express what you want, which is a huge turn-on for men when they know they're doing exactly what you need to have an orgasm. That is putting a price on love. It is impossible to realize change without taking full responsibility. Will it ruin the mood? For most women, this just doesn't compute. And if he sees that his wife desires him, it gives him a sense of well-being in all the other areas of his life.
I learned that sex is a tool—and it was a powerful one!
Secrets of a Man’s Heart
The problem was, I really liked sex. But you can have sex to get [turned on], rather than wait to be [turned on] to have sex. Drew Adkins. She might even be condescending or hurtful when he does. Maybe some combination of the two? I wanted to freely want and to be wanted.